Tuesday, 8 September 2015

The Friendship Factor

Last week, we had Nate from Attitude come and give Berkley a presentation on friendship. 

Nate used a lot of humour and personal stories to teach us about friendship.

He started with some Tips n Tricks:
  • Guys and girls are different!
  • Guy friendships are activity based.
  • Girl friendships are based on talking

Guy/girl friendships:
  • Guys need to learn to ask questions and just listen
  • Girls need to get active to maintain friendships with guys

Followed by information about friendship myths, which he dispelled with:

  • Get involved and talk to others
  • Good friendships take time
  • Friendships are about quality, not quantity

Nate then moved on factors that don't allow friendships to work:

  • Mean humour is like hitting someone on their sore spot. Apologise if you take it too far.
  • Back stabbing always backfires. Say nice things about others.
  • Take smothering as a compliment and remember to hang out with a range of people.
  • Showing off can lead to injuries. Pick the right moment and always remember to show off in moderation!
  • If you are being bullied try and remember that NOTHING is wrong with you and you don't deserve it. Asking for help doesn't make you weak, it makes you smart!

And lastly Nate talked about some helpful tips....
  • You have to be friendly and smile at people, wave, or use the eyebrow-head nod combo.
  • People won't always remember your name, but they will remember how you made them feel.
  • Remember people's names. Use rhyme or associations to help.
  • Learn to listen. Become a good listener by asking good questions.
  • Be positive. See the brighter side of life and say nice things.
  • Remember special times, like birthdays and funny times you have shared.
  • Be yourself and always be proud of who you are and where you come from.

If you would like to talk to someone confidentially or any further information you can contact:

or attitude.org.nz

Although I felt that some of his comments we a little stereotypical, his message was excellent and there were tips and ideas that we could all benefit from.


  1. My favorite line was

    There were some guys throwing their bags onto the roof, some guys throwing their FRIENDS bags onto the roof, some guys throwing their FRIENDS onto the roof......

    I'm pretty sure we don't do that. (right?....)

  2. Hi Mrs Hogg,
    I wasn't at this assembly when Nate came to talk to is but now I feel like I walked away with the same information as everyone else did.
    It sounded like he had a great message to get across to the audience. I know how hard it is to make new friends as I moved house just before I started here at Berkley, which really back-fired when on the first day of school I turned up knowing only Zoe (as she is my neighbour). Therefor I think that targeting Middle Schools is perfect because a lot of new friendships are being created and some of us need that extra help and support.